The Many Meanings of Our Words

Heartbeat - by Nancy White

You may find this an odd post from me, but bear with me. There is a point. But it takes a bit of a twisty path.

My friend Susan Partnow (of “Compassionate Listening” fame) passed along a note in an email list  about a translation of the Christian “Lords Prayer” that struck me in a number of ways. First, the translation from the  original Aramaic had echos of holy lines from other religions. It had for me, personally, a more universal feel and I could recognize its power in an open and less dogmatic way.  For example, it resonated with the end of yoga-class greating of Namaste, “may the light in me greet the light in you.”

Second, it led me to reading a number of translations of the prayer that reminded me of the ease with which we both fall into our own ruts and the difficulty with which we can come to a shared understanding of a set of words. In the online world, this is our ongoing challenge with misinterpretation and frequent lack of shared meaning. In the world of multilingual people, this is an everyday practice – figuring out what is really meant be a word, and not relying on direct translation. But most of us don’t question the words we read or hear that carefully, nor are we attuned to such nuance.

Susan’s note had two other resonate pieces. The first was her picking out of this particular bit of translation that seems well worth reproducing in whole:

From a direct translation of the Lord’s prayer:

“Untangle the knots within so that we can mend our hearts’ simple ties to each other.”

translated (note – site auto plays music) by Neil Douglas Klotz

These lines are most well known as “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

Referring back to the Aramaic, which is a language in which each word has multivalent meanings, the complexity of a deeper level of causation is illuminated.

If we take up the work of untangling the knots within as the basis for forgiveness then we are empowered to develop a courageous heart. A courageous heart is helpful for the world is bound together by long lines of causation which are often modified by grief and pain that has not been processed through the collective body of mankind. Facing the ancient wells of deep pain takes courage…

The tangled web of grievance lives as a energetic structure in the subtler bodies of our being. It can be most pervasive and colors our interactions by creating a field of demand that is a form of displaced power. As long as hurt is a nest of our most common return then we approach our human family with a disempowered heart. This weakened state binds us into an attentive scanning of “other” in order to either protect ourselves or draw towards us the unfulfilled part of our own heart.

These knots tend to bind relationships into the expectation of the diminished heart. A view of ourselves and others from this state of being has difficulty releasing into the interconnected truth of our existence. In fact i have seen the diminished heart actively fight the  implications of a more expansive connection.

“Our hearts simple ties to each other” is an elegant invitation to rest in the truth of our human family. We are here to love. In loving we find the power to comb out the tangles of our own
grievance and affirm the cradling of existence by its own capacity to nourish.

This idea  of entangled hearts popped out at me. I see it in organizations struggling with their own dysfunction and amplified in challenging times. I see it on email lists, blogs and online forums. I see the power of heart disentangling when I watch people who are deeply skilled at conversation, listening and facilitation, both of themselves and with others. Both matter.

The second was her interpretation of the prayer in terms of both Compassionate Listening and Non Violent Communication. Susan wrote:

It seems to directly address what we work for in Compassionate Listening (and I think provides an interesting way to differentiate from NVC (non violent communication), which focuses on needs and thus may be dwelling on the unfulfilled tangles)

For those of you reading who are facilitators… a little food for thought. And here is Klotz’s translation. Enjoy…

The Lords Prayer
Oh Thou, from whom the breath of life comes, who fills all realms of sound, light and vibration.
May Your light be experienced in my utmost holiest.
Your Heavenly Domain approaches.
Let Your will come true – in the universe (all that vibrates) just as on earth (that is material and dense).
Give us wisdom (understanding, assistance) for our daily need, detach the fetters of faults that bind us, (karma) like we let go the guilt of others.
Let us not be lost in superficial things (materialism, common temptations), but let us be freed from that what keeps us from our true purpose.
From You comes the all-working will, the lively strength to act, the song that beautifies all and renews itself from age to age.

Sealed in trust, faith and truth.
(I confirm with my entire being)

DavidSibbet: Power And Love

As a follow up to my post on leadership in challenging times, I wanted to point to David Sibbet’s post, Power And Love: Is it Time for Bi-Lingual Leaders?

David shares some ideas of Adam Kahane about what he has seen as needed beyond the wonderful work he has been doing with scenario planning (which has also captured my attention recently about how it helps us generate innovation and possibiity.) David describes scenario planning as being “fundamentally about surfacing and refreshing the core stories that people tell about what is plausible and possible.”
 
David wrote: 

Adam reported that he’s working on what he found was missing from his initial work with scenarios, which is addressing the issues of power. Scenario work, as Adam experiences it, is really about bringing people back to sense of connection with each other and the larger whole – at core about releasing love into a system. But he has discovered, in spite of having extraordinary experiences of breakthrough in understanding and connection between people, that when the questions of power and resources then needed to be addressed the processes broke down. “It was as though the strong feelings of love and connection actually made the issue of power un-discussable.”

“My new book is basically unpacking a sentence that Martin Luther King wrote that points directly at this issue,” Adam said. King wrote:

“Power without love is reckless and abusive.
    Love without power is sentimental and anemic.

loving car

“My thesis is that if we want to address complex social challenges we need to be be bi-lingual about both power and love,” Adam said.

Now that’s a lot of quoting people, quoting people, quoting a person. But the resonance across these three people reminds me that this is a powerful pattern. Love and power are a yin and yang of each other, and if we have learned anything about the world, is that there are always forces that both pull apart and complement each other at the same time. This is not only a core of leadership, but of facilitation, and collaboration. 

So how do we get it right?

Five for Water – Social Media for Change

When someone asks how ordinary people can use social media to make a change in the world, point them to this collaborative blog of how 5 girls and 4 dads went on a mission to help families in Ethiopia have access to clean water. Five for Water. A very simple blog to hold videos from their trip. This is my favorite quote. “Mom, say hi to mars and tell him to eat his food but not socks.” (Ah, dogs.) You can read the backstory here.

Save the words

In December of 2007 I linked to the Connecting Dotz site with a post about love and giving.  I heard from the site’s creator, Susan  Fassberg today. She has another brilliant idea about saving words. 

Connecting Dotz … Linking people with ideas with people with ideas…
Half the languages spoken on our planet will be extinct by 2100. When a language dies, we lose more that a point of view; we lose traditions that connect people to place— and to each other. We lose deep cultural wisdom: myths and fairy tales, knowledge of plants and animals, humor, prayers, and recipes…

Susan’s new line of cards celebrate these deeply important words and the proceeds again go to non profit causes. I love this one. Confianza, “Confianza.” The description reads:

(Con-fee-AHN-za)
Spanish

I believe in you with all my heart!

This word expresses limitless support and enthusiasm for someone.

Much stronger than confidence, confianza is like unconditional love, expressed as trust.

Susan writes:

Every card purchase supports nonprofit organizations who strive to the preserve and protect the links between language, landscape and life.

Mmmm, landscape and life. That gives me a lot to think about. What life and landscape am I preserving? What are you preserving? 

Do you need some beautiful cards? Looking for a word that resonates! Check with Susan!

Your recommendation has power

I started entitling this blog post “don’t underestimate the power of your recommendation. Then I stopped myself. There are enough “don’ts” out there already!

I have barely read the blogs of dear friends and trusted colleagues over the past months. The toll of 76,950 miles of airplane travel (and countless trains and buses) last year really dug into both my blogging and my blog reading. I am having to clear all my blog reading subscriptions and start again from zero which I am doing today. I did that to all my “nice but not necessary to respond to emails and forum postings” on December 31st. I am also noticing that being home for a full month, exercising, doing yoga and eating right has restored my energy. I guess that means I’m ready for the overseas trip that starts tomorrow! Here I come, Roma!

But some stories beg to be passed along, and this one from Lee and Sachi LeFever at CommonCraft is one of those stories that makes the point of the importance of recognizing the power of both recommendation, story and reciprocity. Read for yourself.

Photo by Sachi LeFever via Flickr creative commonsThe Best Christmas Gift – From a Driver in Sri Lanka

We became friends with Mervyn and had a wonderful time in Sri Lanka.  We always felt safe and Mervyn was a perfect driver and guide – he gave us a local’s perspective and became our friend. He introduced us to Arrack, a favorite alcohol of locals.  We told him that we would write about him on the Internet and hoped it would help his business. It was the least we could do.

Last night, on Christmas Eve, 4 years after deciding we would go on the trip, we received this email message from Mervyn:

DEAR SIR,

HOW ARE YOU? I AM FINE AND ALL OK WITH ME. I HAD GOOD BUSINESS FOR THIS YEAR. THAT IS BECAUSE OF YOU. THIS YEAR 90% FROM THE BUSINESS I GOT FROM YOUR WEB SITE THAT YOU RECOMAND ME. I SAY AGAIN AND AGAIN THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

I WISH MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE.

MERVYN

This message made our Christmas extra special this year. Mervyn is honest, has a good heart, is very hard-working, and deserves to have a successful business.  It’s inspiring to me, as a blogger, to think that a couple of blog posts can make such a big difference to someone like him on the other side of the world. Our post is the #3 result for  “Driver Sri Lanka” on Google. I hope we can continue to help Mervyn’s business in 2009.

In the days of loose ties and swift creation and forgetting of connections, a small signal sent out in gratitude and appreciate can have unexpected results. Yes, our complaints may get those big businesses to improve their customer service if enough of us bitch and moan. But our little, individual generative acts, can have swift and powerful repercussions to people like Mervyn.

Who have you thanked or recommended today? How will that help them have a better financial year in tough times, or simply give them a little energy to get through the day?

I’m saying thanks to Lee and Sachi for blogging about Mervyn. And for Mervyn writing back to tell them what was the result of that blog post.